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  1. all families argue 2

    Do you ever feel that there are too many arguments in your house? Then you are not alone. Every family argues and has disagreements with each other at some point.  Crucially, it is the way that people argue that will profoundly determine the happiness levels within the family.  Unhappy families argue badly which drives disconnection and resentments, happy families argue well, which drives connection and understanding.

    UNHAPPY FAMILIES ARGUE BADLY:

    Unhappy families don't resolve problems when they argue, they simply vent frustrations to the other person in a way that is destructive to a person’s self-worth. The goal is for a person to gain power and control over the other.  They don't repair the relationship after an argument, instead they go from one argument to another and wonder why nothing improves. There is often a scapegoat in the family or a naughty child, who is blamed for the family’s arguments.

  2. golden rule

    If you like many parents often find yourself sleep deprived, overwhelmed with the to-do list and feeling that there’s never enough time in the day to do it all, then you are not alone.

    Often, we believe that in order to meet the demands of home life, childcare and work, we have to sacrifice our own needs and there is a sense that “I can’t do everything, and my needs will have to wait.”

  3. BUILDING TRUST

    Over the years of working with parents, I have often had a conversation about trust.

    They may have little or no trust in their children and this usually causes a rift between them, which over time erodes their relationship and causes a lot of stress.

    Common trust issues include:

    • Trusting children to be home on time.
    • Trusting children to make good decisions.
    • Trusting children not to take drugs.
    • Trusting children to tell the truth.
    • Trusting children to be careful.

    “Trust is built in very small mo­ments,” says best-selling author Brené Brown, PhD.

  4. lie social M

    Do you feel that sometimes your child does not tell you the truth? Are you worried that you can’t trust them anymore and feel that you would like to improve your relationship?  Children start to learn to lie from a young age because they are trying to make sense of the world and learn about what is right and wrong. When children repeatedly tell lies, such as telling you that they are somewhere they are not, then it can be very concerning, and we need to think of ways to manage this.